Here's the scoop. I've noticed this pattern in my biz... things will be going fine for a while, like 4-8 weeks then something will happen...
I got one too many NOs in a row...
Like a promotion fails...
A webinar flops...
And it triggers a tailspin into all these uncomfortable questions like...
Why am I doing this again?
Can I throw everything in the trash and start over?
*CUE THE EXISTENTIAL CRISIS*
Can you relate?!
Have you ever wanted to escape from your biz?
It's exactly like this picture that seems to be perpetually floating around the internet and resurfacing when I'm having internal chaos....
The worst part about this mental space for me, is that it also comes along with guilt. I wanted to have my own biz for so long. I pined for it. I jonsed for the chance to quit my corporate gig.
Sometimes when I feel anything less than happy in my biz I feel guilty like "you WANTED this... what's your problem!"
PSA: It's super unhelpful to feel guilty about your own thoughts.
Anyway... I'll stop revealing my innermost psyche to you (for now!).
Let's get on with what the heck you can do about it if you find yourself in this place.
1. Be kind to yourself
First and foremost, if you aren't feeling good, IT IS OK. It's a part of the process. It's completely unrealistic (in my opinion) to always feel good in your biz. There will be things you don't like or that happen out of your control. It is what it is.
It's important to be kind to yourself and honor your feelings (vs trying to hide them or mask them).
2. Seek support
When you're feeling bad, get support. This could be a coach you pay, a mastermind, a facebook group, a biz bestie, etc.
WARNING: Do be selective about who you get support from. Choose someone who truly understands what you are trying to create and who will let you vent, but also hold you high and remind you of your vision.
That means going to your mom or best friend IRL may not make sense this time (unless of course they actually understand what you're doing).
3. Determine the real root cause
What is coming up for you? Why? For example, say you lose it after you get a NO on a sales call. After you take a minute to calm down, ask yourself why you reacted.
Maybe it's really because you feel stress over paying a bill you have due in 4 days. Ask the Universe to give you a way to get the money for that bill, and listen. See what ideas manifest.
Maybe you'll suddenly notice an old beanie baby across the room that's worth $1K that you can go pawn. I kid, but you get the idea. Things open up (especially around generating money) if you detach yourself from HOW it has to happen.
4. Own your power
Ultimately, YOU are the captain of your own ship. If you REALLY don't want to do something, you don't have to. But again, be sure you are also cycling through 1-3 as well. For example, if you're trying to hide from selling 1:1 coaching by making a course instead just because you are afraid to do a sales call, maybe the growth for you is to get over your phone fears.
If you have done 100s of sales calls without making a sale and have felt constantly unclear on your high-end coaching offer for months or years and feel called to do a course instead then maybe that makes more sense. Again, it's a judgment call, I'm just saying don't always cave to fear ;)
What about these 4 steps stands out to you most? Comment below to let me know!